I was having a conversation with someone the other day and they told me I am fat. It was nice how they went out of their way to give me this information. Because you know, had they not, I would have been clueless about my little problem.
For real, I know I'm fat, okay? I can see the numbers on the scale and I'm intimately acquainted with my muffin top. We are BFFs.
I know for sure that I have a weight issue. I've had it basically my whole life and have battled with said issue. We've had wars where I fought full throttle with countless hours of spinning classes and flavorless rice cakes. And from the looks of things, I've lost most of those battles. It's a fact of my life. I'm quite aware of it, thank you very much.
The most offensive part of this person's comment was not that they said it, after all, if someone said that to me with the intention of helping or out of concern, I would welcome it. Hey, if I'm willing to publicly blog about my fatness then you can clearly see how I might be open to a respectful conversation about it. No, it was that they said it with the sole intention of pointing it out as a flaw. My big fat flaw.
I know I'm flawed. I never tried to pretend I wasn't. Most of us are riddled with flaws. Unfortunately, being overweight is a flaw I can't hide. There are other flaws that I can hide. Like that I can be impatient and judgmental. I also hide that even though I am 36 years old, I clandestinely watch (and love) "The Secret Life Of The American Teenager."
Oh yes, I know my flaws. I don't need anyone to point them out to me. I don't like them any more than you do. But imagine if we were allowed to walk around pointing out people's flaws to them. "Pst, hey you...just so you know, your left eye is slightly higher than your right eye and also...your ears are too big."
There are certain flaws that we all have that are obvious. We know we have them and so does everyone else. Like, we all know if someone likes to wear their clothes too tight. Or if they haven't cut their split ends in ten years. We know if you are balding or if you have acne. It's just that most of us wouldn't approach someone with acne and be all, " hey pizza face, you have pimples. Just thought you should know. In case you don't own a mirror."
I wonder if my so-called-friend would like it if I called her out on their obvious flaws. And there are some glaringly obvious ones, let me tell ya! One of them recently became much more obvious. I should inform her of this, make sure she's aware. You know, like if I casually informed captain obvious that they are rude, discourteous, uncouth and lacking in grace and refinement.